It happens that you forgot to go to the toilet before having sex and in the process you really want to “like a little.” Vitally. It happens. But some women cannot achieve orgasm, because they think that just about … embarrassment will happen. We explain why this happens and why you should not be afraid of it.
We want to console you. You’re not the only one, many women are afraid of “leakage” during sex, and this is only our trouble, because men are endowed with a physiological mechanism that prevents them from urinating during an erection.
In approximately 60% of women who suffer from varying degrees of incontinence (for example, during coughing or sneezing), urine is released during intercourse.
It is likely that what you take for urine is not. Until now, this topic has been discussed in the scientific community (not too actively, because it is not so easy to find participants in the experiments): some scientists are sure that the excreted fluid is still urine, while others maintain the position that it is fluid from Skin’s glands.
Possible reasons
Well, to begin with, you could forget to urinate before sex. During sexual stimulation, the penis or fingers may one way or another put pressure on the bladder and cause a desire to immediately empty it.
If you went to the toilet, and the discomfort does not go away, try a different pose. The bladder can “react” to active shocks.
A lubricant sometimes causes a problem – maybe this is how you have an allergic reaction? Itching in the urethra can easily be mistaken for going to the toilet.
You don’t want to use the toilet
These are not Jedi suggestions from Master Yoda. In fact, some women describe the feeling of an impending orgasm precisely as an unbearable desire to urinate. Fearing that the latter will happen, they are so tense that they “lose”, in fact, the peak of pleasure. British scientists have proven: the more you think, how not to describe during sex, the less chance you have of an orgasm.
Try to relax. Go to the toilet in advance so that your bladder is empty and there is no reason for concern. Perhaps you are on the verge of experiencing one of the most dizzying orgasms in your life.
And if not? Not scary. Honestly, during sex there is an exchange of fluids, and it is unlikely that your partner will be shocked by a small embarrassment. You will not stay in a puddle, most likely, only a few drops will stand out, which will go unnoticed.
Stress urinary incontinence
This incontinence occurs when intra-abdominal pressure rises: you lift weights, actively exercise or … have sex.
There may be several reasons:
- pregnancy and childbirth;
- menopause;
- bladder stones;
- overweight;
- urethra infections;
- some drugs;
- severe stress.
But by and large, the weak muscles of the pelvic floor are to blame.
What to do?
Well, we found out who is to blame, but what to do? In addition to medical treatment, good old Kegel exercises will come in handy for us! They strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor.
Unlike biceps, pelvic muscles are not so easy to find. Convenient way: while in the toilet, interrupt the urination process. Feel the tension? That they are! An important point: Kegel exercises in this state can not be done – there will be problems with the bladder.
Strong muscles of the pelvic floor support the bladder and intestines, and thanks to this, nothing leaks after urination. Read more about training here.